Quotable Quotes – Beyond Labels

If you read the last two posts on bisexuality and androgyny, you’ll see that the speakers are talking about more than just those categories, consciously or unconsciously they’re moving beyond labels to a much richer and more complex model of gender.

There are a lot of these voices, political, academic and from the arts, that agree with the refusal to be boxed in by labels and the world’s definitions. Here are a few more:

“I imagine a world in which our genders had nothing to do with who we fall into bed with.”

- Ara Wilson

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“In itself, homosexuality is as limiting as heterosexuality: the ideal should be to be capable of loving a woman or a man; either, a human being, without feeling fear, restraint or obligation.”

- Simone de Beauvior

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“Beneath the duality of sex there is a oneness. Every male is potentially a female and every female potentially a male. If a man wants to understand a woman, he must discover the woman in himself, and if a woman would understand a man, she must dig in her own consciousness to dicover her own masculine traits.”

- Magnus Hirschfeld

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“It is fatal to be a man or woman pure and simple: one must be a woman manly, or a man womanly.”

- Virginia Woolf

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“I wish I could be so simple! But I’ve been involved with so many different kinds of people – a man for eight years, a woman, and then this transgendered person – that I have to call myself omnisexual, because I just don’t believe in this whole lesbian boring-ass fucking shit in New York & L.A.”

- Sophie B. Hawkins, in Details magazine

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“The way I approach the character isn’t about being gay or straight. It’s just about who you love. Gender has very little to do with it.”

- Mia Kirshner

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“For some reason, when I was younger, I dressed up like a girl, I looked feminine, and so straight boys wanted to fuck me. And now I don’t really look like that anymore, I’m not a little girl. I’m not skinny, frail, petite. I’m a big guy, although I still wear makeup. So I’m in this weird no-man’s land, and it’s fucking strange. I’m learning as I get older that sexuality is a very gray area. I don’t actually believe in gay and straight anymore. The older I get, the more I think it’s kind of a mind-set. When I was 16, I did not find women attractive. As I’ve gotten older, I can now look at women’s bodies and think, Yeah, they’re nice. And I can watch porn videos with straight men and women and actually get turned on.”

- Boy George, to the Advocate

Quotable Quotes – Pete Wentz androgyny edition

“Rebel rebel, your mom’s in a whirl, she’s not sure if you’re a boy or a girl.”

Androgyny is fascinating, it’s been here forever but it stays so taboo. It’s been “in” for every decade since the ’70’s, where pioneers like David Bowie and the New York Dolls helped push it into popular culture, yet it’s never fully “in,” because genderbend isn’t ever fully “in.”

Rock and rollers have done a lot for androgyny, from Bowie and Grace Jones to the guyliner-wearing rockers of today. For our androgyny edition, here’s an excerpt from an interview with Fall Out Boy bassist Pete Wentz, followed by a classic quote from an interview with Gregg Alexander from The New Radicals.

Pete Wentz, being featured in the Advocate’s “Big Gay Following” section:

The Advocate: You made a lot of gay fans happy when you admitted that you’d kissed boys because “anything above the waist is fair game.”

Pete: [Laughs] I actually mean it. That’s just kind of how I am. I’m a little bit of a make-out bandit. I don’t discriminate too much.

The Advocate: What’s the closest you’ve ever come to taking the boy-on-boy action to the next level?

Pete: I haven’t really gotten that close, ’cause honestly, I’m not a real big fan of penises. Like my own, whenever I look at it, I just don’t find anything attractive about it. I can’t believe girls are into it.

The Advocate: You’ve also said that people who aren’t fans of yours will sometimes call you an antigay slur. Why is that?

Pete: I don’t know. I thin it’s a real cheap, easy word. At some point when we were doing this band I was like, “You know what? I’m going to be the most androgynous person that I can possibly be. I’m going to wear girl pants and makeup.” I looked to David Bowie, Mick Jagger, and people like that, and I was like, “That’s what’s missing in all the bands that we’re playing with right now! You need this effeminate edge.” Did Mick Jagger and David Bowie make out? Probably. Who knows? I think sexuality is a lot more ambiguous and more blurred than people make it out to be.” [Emphasis ours]

Rock on, Petey!

Here’s the quote I promised you from The New Radical’s Gregg Alexander :

“‘I’ve tried most drugs, most positions under the guise of most religions, with most genders, on most continents … but I’ve always come back to one thing: life and love.”

And there you have it folks! More on androgyny soon, but let’s leave you with a metrosexual quote from hobbit / Lost star Dominic Monaghan.

“I wear make-up and I paint my nails. I wear high heels. This is all true. I like wearing skirts. I should probably be gay but I like women too much. I am kind of metrosexual in the sense that, if I do get lost, I do ask for directions. I pull over to gas stations and ask. So I don’t know. I guess guys have a lot of pride.”