Tila Tequila, pt. II – TV and breaking down barriers

One of the ongoing debates within any oppressed group is who should be allowed to be a spokesperson or representative for that group. Often the person who gets the most publicity is someone who might be embarrassing or controversial, like OJ Simpson, or Anne Coulter.

When it comes to the entertainment world, entertainers can be criticized for playing stereotypical roles, thereby reinforcing those stereotypes. At the same time, exposure to minority characters on TV can make them familiar and non-threatening, which can disarm or counter stereotypes.

When I was growing up in the 70’s, I lived in an Italian/Irish suburb in New Jersey without many black friends, but I watched shows like The Jeffersons, Good Times, What’s Happening, and Sanford and Son daily. Interracial couples and race issues where presented and discussed in a comedic context that I had no problem relating to.

I identified with Raj, Dwayne and Rerun from What’s Happening even though their lives were different from mine. While some of the humor on some of these shows may have been stereotypical, overall the effect was positive, and the comedy allowed for the introduction of these characters onto TV.

I think this exposure benefited my sense of racial equality greatly, even if subliminally. And I think the same thing has happened in the 90’s for gays and lesbians, with the advent of Will & Grace, Ellen and Rosie coming out, Queer Eye for the Straight Guy, etc.

And now we have Tila Tequila. You could complain she’s just a party girl (her claim to fame is “most friends” on MySpace), but in a sense that’s the point – you know straight and gay party people too, so this is just one more type of person that’s out there. They’re not that different from you.

I think the bottom line is that any exposure is good but we need more diverse exposure. Other groups need to see that bisexuals come from every class, background, and demographic. There are PhD’s, blue collar, rich and poor, bisexuals of every creed and class. Let’s get more of them on TV.

Here are some quotes on the presentation of gays and lesbians on TV and in the media, and these can be applied to the Bi situation as well. There is no consensus, especially when it comes to minorities whose appearance or behavior can be considered stereotypical, like effeminate gays and drag queens. While some are afraid of reinforcing stereotypes, others point out that being publicly gay or trans is a radical transformative act that should be recognized and applauded.

“When I was a boy, the only role models I had were Liberace and Charles Nelson Reilly. I couldn’t play the piano and I wasn’t much good at Match Game so I felt doomed. Now there are countless more images of gay people on television and I am grateful for every one of them, but they don’t represent that many more options. The message I hear is that it’s OK to be gay as long as you are effortlessly stylish, hysterically funny or both.”

- Columnist PG Kain, Houston Chronicle

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“While [Will and Jack] are as stereotypical as Amos and Andy, they help humanize gay life. “Queer Eye for the Straight Guy” does that better, for the simple reason that it shows gay and straight men touching and the straight men don’t turn gay, which is what I think a lot of straight teenagers think.”

- Gay author Felice Picano in Montreal’s Hour newspaper

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“I know that a lot of people will watch this show who are not familiar with the gay community, and [they will] start to reconsider their notions of identity — their own and other people’s. I’m really excited by that.”
- Jennifer “Flashdance” Beals who stars in Showtime’s upcoming lesbian series “The L Word,” to Windy City Times, May 21.

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“Several of the straight men have very intense experiences. We anticipate [that] a lot of both gay and straight viewers will have their assumptions challenged about what it means to be gay and what it means to be straight.”

- Douglas Ross, executive producer of the Bravo network TV series “Boy Meets Boy,” a gay-dating reality show that features an eligible man looking for love among a pool of 15 potential mates — some of whom are heterosexual men paid by the program to pretend to be gay

Quotable Quotes – John McCain edition

We’ve had a few quotable quotes dedicated to gay marriage and the naturalness or “unnaturalness” of homosexuality, including a George Bush edition, and now let’s kick off number 3!

“Senator John McCain (R-Ariz.) said that homosexuality “is a lifestyle I don’t agree with.” This is a trope you hear from the religious right a good deal, and it seems to have entered the conservative mainstream, rolling easily off the tongue. But it is a very odd thing to say. No one (speaking rationally) says, “I don’t agree with the Pacific Ocean” or “I don’t agree with the Grand Canyon.” Facts are not things you agree or disagree with. You can agree or disagree with viewpoints, thoughts, or ideas, but homosexuality is not a viewpoint or idea. It is a thing, an attribute, a nature, a fact.”

- Syndicated gay-press columnist Paul Varnell

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“The claim that homosexuality is “unnatural” …. Perhaps the Pope is suggesting that it lies beyond the scope of “normal” human behaviour. If so, this has uncomfortable implications for an association of old men who wear dresses, hear voices and practise ritual cannibalism …. Self-enforced celibacy … is all but unknown among other animal species. If any sexual behaviour is out of tune with the natural world, it is surely that of the priesthood.”

- George Monbiot writing in Britain’s The Guardian

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“My ultimate objective is to help create a society where people no longer define themselves as gay, straight and bisexual. When all three orientations are deemed equally valid and all intolerance is eradicated, there will be no need to differentiate betweeen people of different sexualities. True queer liberation is when nobody cares who’s hetero, homo or bi: when we can love whoever we want – man or woman – without fear of ostracism, prejudice, discrimination, or violence.”

- British gay leader Peter Tatchell (OutRage!)

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And finally, on the subject of gay Republicans …

“I think the ‘different kind of Republican’ tag is a load of crap. I wonder why gay Republicans don’t just go out in the parking lot and beat themselves up – it would be quicker.”

- Hollywood Square Bruce Vilanch to Gay.com

California Supreme Court Strikes Down Same-Sex Marriage Ban

Big news here in California today as the Supreme Court struck down the ban on same-sex marriage as unconstitutional.  Last month I dedicated a Quotable Quotes to the topic of gay marriage. In honor of today’s ruling, here are some more quotes on the legality of gayness.

A law branding one class of persons as criminal solely based on the State’s moral disapproval of that class and the conduct associated with that class runs contrary to the values of the Constitution and the Equal Protection Clause, under any standard of review. I therefore concur in the Court’s judgment that Texas’ sodomy law banning ‘deviate sexual intercourse’ between consenting adults of the same sex, but not between consenting adults of different sexes, is unconstitutional.

- U.S. Supreme Court Justice Sandra Day O’Connor. O’Connor voted to legalize gay sex in all 50 states, but for a different reason than five other justices, who cited “private conduct in the exercise of their liberty under the Due Process Clause of the Fourteenth Amendment to the Constitution.”

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Separate is never equal. Civil unions are a step in the right direction. But they almost always offer less than the full roster of rights that marriage entails — and they still stigmatize same-sex relationships as deserving only second-class recognition.

- Human Rights Watch Executive Director Kenneth Roth

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The majority of social conservatives oppose gay marriage; they oppose gay citizens serving their country in the military; they oppose gay citizens raising children; they oppose protecting gay citizens from workplace discrimination; they oppose including gays in hate-crime legislation, while including every other victimized group; they oppose civil unions; they oppose domestic partnerships; they oppose … well, they oppose, for the most part, every single practical measure that brings gay citizens into the mainstream of American life. This is simply bizarre. Can you think of any other legal, noncriminal minority in society toward which social conservatives have nothing but a negative social policy?

– Gay journalist Andrew Sullivan writing in The Wall Street Journal

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I think it’s entirely who you are from birth, personally. Some people might choose, but I think that it’s who you are. I think people need to be able to be who they are. I have a friend who was married for many years and then the marriage dissolved and he came out … and he lived this life of tension and of great difficulty. … It’s in your system. It’s in your genes. … I think that people have a right in America to be who they are, who they are born as, and we are all God’s children.”

- Presidential candidate John Kerry in an MTV interview

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Love is the most cherished feeling we have; it’s unique to human beings, and if anyone thinks they can dismiss love through politics, they’re nuts.

– Liza Minnelli receiving an award from the Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation in Los Angeles.